In the movie 50 first dates Adam Sandler’s character, Henry, breaks up with his girlfriend by telling her that he is a spy that has to go undercover to another country so he will not be able to see her again. While this scene was upsetting to me, it made me realize how honesty and confrontation are really hard for some people to the point that they have to sort of weasel their way out of it and unless the other person finds out they are basically “Scott Free”. Or are they?
After talking to a friend that was recently dumped I was perplexed by her story. It is bad enough that breakups are hard to deal with, but for her the wound was worsened when she found out that her boyfriend had lied to her when he broke up with her. He initially told her he needed “space” and needed to find himself, yet two months later she found out he had a girlfriend. In reality he didn’t need any “space” he just didn’t want to be with her anymore. This made me wonder, “Is there a real way to break up with someone?” And how do you do it without hurting feelings? I think for some “Breaking up” is almost a necessary evil especially if the relationship is not healthy anymore or the spark is gone. Most of the time in a situation like this if both parties are “Adults” it will hurt, but their will be a mutual agreement.
My rundown is just to be as honest as possible, because not only are you being honest with the other person, but yourself as well. You have to treat others as you would like to be treated. When someone breaks up with you, how would you feel or how would you like to be treated?
As sad as breakups are, they are a reality and I’m pretty sure all of us have been on either end at one point or another so play nice.
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